would you rather be
needed and not wanted?
wanted and not needed?
certainly a person doesn't need a certain 4 year old to belly up
to the sink to help peel potatoes for thanksgiving dinner.
in fact, it might prove messy, take tons of more time than necessary
and just plain frustrate you.
if you allow him to have a job he can handle and even
just pretend you need him
he will most likely
not remember not being wanted or needed...
will remember being needed AND wanted.